I know I spend a lot of time lamenting the drawbacks of being single, however, today I recognized one of the benefits of being single in a work world where I am surrounded by married individuals. My boss pulled me into his office because he was looking for some insight. As the resident young single, I can offer a perspective my coworkers can’t. I represent a different target demographic and have the time to experience more things in the community, giving me a professional advantage in a sense.
The Issue of Friendship
For as long as relationships have been ending people have tried to remain friends with their exes. This has never been easy and very seldom has it ever been successful. Why do people feel the need to remain friends after a relationship has run its course? Is it because the dumper is trying to make it easier on the dumpee? Is the dumpee trying desperately to hold on to the relationship they never wanted to end in the first place?
The Men We Want to Marry
Gloria Steinem once observed, “Some of us are becoming the men we wanted to marry.” This is something I’ve discovered and embraced recently. Beyond the idea of feminism and the independent woman, this can go a long way toward ensuring your happiness as an individual. I noticed that when a relationship ended I often missed not only the person but the things that they brought to the relationship that I lacked in both characteristics and interests as well.
Love is Blind; and Mildly Retarded
Love makes people stupid. Not in the sense that couples often begin using awful nicknames and talk to each other like complete and utter morons. But in the sense that perfectly intelligent human beings make awful decisions about their futures and their overall wellbeing based on a feeling, a connection, a figment of their imagination.
What's The Rush?
’ve noticed recently that, in all the conversations I’ve had with people who have been married for anywhere between 10 to 50 years, I’ve never heard a single one of them say they wish they had gotten married earlier. I have, however, heard a number of these people say they wish they hadn’t gotten married so soon. These sentiments have come from people who are extremely happy in their marriage, those who are miserable and those who are somewhere in between. Many express regrets.